You screwed up again. You just want to get out unscathed. But what if there was a better option?
Mess up much? Me too. In fact, I make so many mistakes I could fill a steamer trunk.
And yes, I do all the things that everyone does. I indulge in shame and tie my self worth to the mistake and look for ways to avoid all that unpleasantness by eating, drinking, watching TV, reading – you get the picture. I’m not perfect – and neither are you.
None of us is, which is why mistakes are inevitable.
If you believe John C. Maxwell, and his book Failing Forward, mistakes are the way forward too. So if you’re trying to grow, then you’re going to have to make a lot of mistakes. You can read more about that in my blog Failure is not Actually Optional.
Typically, we see mistakes as a dual outcome event.
Things around us can get worse because of the mistake or we can recover from it and escape unscathed.
It’s like an evil Hobson’s choice – take a really bad outcome or be happy you got nothing.
How often do you leap from your chair and gasp “Hooray, I’ve made a mistake! Now there are new, better outcomes that wouldn’t have been available a minute ago!”
Right? Never. And yet, that possibility exists.
That third path, that failing forward, that post-traumatic growth, exists as one of three possible outcomes – not two.
Things can get worse.
Things can stay as they are.
Things can be better.
Here’s why we miss that third path, why we never even look to the left to notice it – during times of stress, our brains have a natural tendency to narrow our focus. To find out more about how this works and why – check out The Opposite of Chronic Stress. For now, suffice it to say, that we think mistakes are deadly, they mean that there is something wrong with us, they could get us kicked out of the tribe. All that negativity narrows our focus and we have less capacity to see a third path forward, the path that leads to something better.
We’ve all experienced it – the mistake we thought would be terrible caused an unpredicted and wonderful outcome. Yet, just when we need it most, our brains close down to the possibility.
How can we overcome this? Simple. Awareness. It’s enough to know that there are three paths out of any mistake. Write it on a post-it note and keep it handy. I might tattoo it across my own knuckles.
On my left fist – RELAX
On my right fist – 3 PATHS
And that?
Could turn your steamer trunk of mistakes into a treasure chest of wins.
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Uncertainty is a beast, but the phrase ‘don’t know’ can be beautiful.
Look, you don’t know everything.
Anybody can see that’s true. You hardly know which breakfast cereal to choose. At least, that’s how I feel most of the time. We all let confusion and anxiety about what’s coming next push us around sometimes. Work is full of choices. We’re asked to know which project to tackle next, which email to answer first, where our attention is best focused.
It can leave us hamstrung, standing with our arms tightly wrapped around the one or two things we’re actually certain of.
Afraid to move ahead; clearly stuck.
The truth is, we really don’t know what the end result of most of our actions will be. The way we speak to each other, our tone of voice, the time of day or location a conversation occurs in can all impact the outcome we so desperately want to control. There are so many variables and we want to be perfect. Our concern about not knowing makes us feel vulnerable and keeps us stuck, looking at one more option, one more outcome.
We think of decisions like they’re skidding cars, sliding on ice. Once we decide on a course of action, the whole thing is out of our control.
So we delay the decision.
Ouch! Decision delay and fear of uncertainty – our brains just hate both of those things. Our brains are certainty machines. In fact, we’re so aligned with certainty that we will manufacture evidence for practically anything. This love of certainty means that as soon as we decide, we get a rush of relief. ( For more information on confirmation bias, check out lessons 5 & 6 here.) So we delay decision making out of fear and uncertainty, and our brain’s discomfort with the lack of a decision makes us feel even worse. Decisions are a beast!
Ready for the beauty part of this?
Why not just tell ourselves the truth? We don’t know what’s going to happen next. Fact, Dudette.
Don’t know.
Seriously. You actually don’t know, so why not own that?
Here’s how it works. When you’re facing uncertainty, rephrase it into a question and answer it with “don’t know.” Don’t know in the big sense. The sense that NONE of us know how ANYTHING will turn out.
Will your business people need the data in the next 90 days? Don’t know.
Should you confront your staff about talking too much during the day? Don’t know.
Your company wants you to predict the cost of a project with very little specifications. What will it cost? Don’t know.
What will happen in the next five seconds? Don’t know.
Because everything in life is interconnected, even if you have all the information, still the answer is – don’t know.
And – that’s OK.
Because a decision isn’t a car on ice. It’s a car in motion.
You have a steering wheel. You have a gas pedal, you have brakes.
The only thing you don’t have is a crystal ball.
And that? Is just good to know.
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It’s one of the most common things I hear clients say… and it’s not “I want a better desk chair.”
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My step-dad taught me to hike. Always have a map. Break-in your boots. Use a damn stick. Know a lot of jokes and stories to tell – these are pretty much the rules. Oh, and turn around and give the person behind you a hand.
After any particularly tricky ascent, he would always turn around and offer me his hand. If I was ahead of him and I turned and offered my hand, he would always take it. Even though he outweighed me, even though I often didn’t have such a great foot plant, he never refused a hand up. He also never failed to offer one.
There’s a dignity in having someone accept the hand you offer to them. There’s a mutual respect there. It’s nice.
It’s also good to have the person you’re hiking with, turn around and offer you their hand. They remember you, they acknowledge you.
A lot of hikers will refuse that hand offered to them. They don’t want to pull the other person off balance, they might say. But I think they just don’t feel comfortable taking a hand that’s reaching out. These same hikers would be the first person to offer up a hand or food or water on the trail. It’s not the offering of help that bothers them, it’s the taking.
“I don’t like to ask for help.”
I hear that one so often from my clients. They’re talking about seeking out an assist on a problem that they are wrestling with. They’re talking about trying to finish a large project when they don’t have enough time. They’re talking about what they make it mean when they ask for help.
Here’s what it means:
Nothing.
Work is a collaborative effort. Seeking help or accepting help is just how work gets done. Accepting help only means one thing – you’ll get done faster.
It’s possible to lean on people too much or to ask for too much help, but if you’re a person that doesn’t ask for any help – this is not your issue.
So this week, set yourself up for success. Resolve to offer help once a day, and accept help when it’s offered.
Don’t you wish for work to feel like this? Relaxed, clean, a cup of coffee and a blank page? Fuh-gedda-bout it.
I am a little upset. Mylife isn’t neat and orderly. Stuff is happening and I’m not as caught up as I’d like to be. Sound familiar? You too? Huh.
Well, let me go you one better. My work life is that way too. What do you think of that?
You think I should take down my Life Coach sign and go home, don’t you? Or maybe you’re like many of my clients and you’re a bit relieved to learn that I’ll be spending an hour or four on Sunday getting my inbox in order.
The nature of work is to be messy. Hey, after all, we’re working in here, we’re having a life. Each of us is trying to grow, to master the next thing required of us and to find a way to balance this against all the other demands on our time.
Work is not static and it never will be.
As soon as we wrangle all the demands into an orderly state, as soon as we master what’s in front of us, something changes. A competitor comes up with a better product and we have to catch up. Our co-worker retires and we have to learn their tasks. A new opportunity presents itself and we have to learn to fit it into the puzzle of time and tasks. All of this happens and more. It never ends.
Regardless of where we are on the learning curve, the curve keeps sloping off into the distance.
Are you disappointed?
I used to be so change resistant that I let my living room sofa make me unhappy for a month. I spent hours and hours shopping for it. It was perfect until it arrived. Then it was all wrong – because it wasn’t the couch that used be there.
Now, I’m older. I know I’ve got at least three more couches coming my way before I kick the bucket. I don’t need my couch to be perfect to be happy. It’s not the centerpiece of my life.
What if you let work, be work? You know, kinda how when the cat leaves dead mice on the doormat, you have to acknowledge that Mr. Fuzzy is a predator and not a really short person?
What if you looked at work and noticed that it always comes with challenges? What if you looked at work and noticed that interruptions arise daily? That if you turn off your phone and log out of instant messager, people will show up at your door? That your work consists of both projects and changes to the projects?
If you wish work would be orderly so that you can relax, then you’re wishing for the wrong thing. If you require your situation, or your sofa, to conform to your expectations in order for you to be content, then change is going to be a problem.
When you and your work are separate, you get to be you.
Work gets to be work.
Work can stay messy. And you? You can put your feet up and be content.
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He’s not a paid friend. He’s not looking for your defects. A life coach is always on your side… He just doesn’t buy into all your malarkey.
What the heck is a life coach?
Nobody knows- Right?
Life Coaching is an unregulated industry.
So basically, a life coach is anything anybody decides it to be.
Here are some of the definitions I’ve heard –
– A friend you pay for
– An accountability partner
– A cheerleader or a motivational speaker
– A therapist but cheaper
– A nutritionist
– An exercise coach
– A woman in a long skirt who burns incense and thinks the universe will make her rich
And frankly, because there’s no standard definition, any of those things might be true for some life coaches – except the therapist thing. Life Coaches are definitely not therapists or shrinks, or medical professionals or psychologists.
So, do your homework.
Most life coaches have websites, blogs, podcasts, webinars and books you can check out before you hire them. Most life coaches will give you a free session so you and the coach can decide if you’re a match.
I hired my first life coach without having a clue what to expect. I’d read her books, listened to her podcast and checked out her website. Then I handed over a big wad of cash, with no idea what I would get for it.
Best decision ever.
Why would I do that?
Listen, I don’t pay for anything I can do myself. Not plumbing, not housekeeping, not dog grooming. But I will pay a boatload of money to anyone who can help me with any of these:
– quiet my internal monkey mind
– stop messing around and start getting things done
– stop overeating
– manage my time better
– be more productive
There are tons of qualified coaches out there who can do just that. I’m one of them. But back when I hired my first coach, I wasn’t.
After I started with my first coach, I decided one wasn’t enough. I added two more. One for weight loss and one for figuring out work-life balance.
The results were stunning.
I not only lost weight, but I also got control of my mind, got better at managing my time and my productivity, started accomplishing life long dreams and, wait for it, experienced self-compassion for the first time in my life.
Here’s my definition of a life coach:
A person who helps you see what results you are getting now, and figure out how to change them – all without judgment and without having to pull all your old baggage out to do it.
Sound good? You bet.
If you would like to try working with a life coach, it would be my pleasure to go through a free 25-minute session with you. Sign up here.
But if she won’t, here’s how to make sure you get your zzzz’s and why it should matter to both of you.
There’s Falling Asleep…
Falling asleep is an art. And like any good artist, you have to practice. You have to pay attention and care about the process and the results.
My own journey with re-learning to fall asleep started with a small notebook and pen. Every day for about two weeks, I jotted down all the random details I could think of about my environment and my perceived quality of sleep. I did this both before I went to bed and when I woke up.
What time I got in bed.
What time did I last check the clock? (When did I fall asleep?)
When did I get up?
How did I feel in the morning?
What temperature was the room? What blankets did I use?
What type of light was there?
What did I do just before I went to bed?
What did I eat?
Out of all that note taking I learned this – to fall asleep quickly, I needed:
Pitch black (I went from using night lights to total lights out)
Cool temperatures
A bit of protein – like yogurt.
No laptop in bed before lights out
Your results might vary but by doing this exercise, I got to my minimum number of actions to ensure a fast descent into blissful sleep. Try it yourself. It only requires about 2 weeks of notetaking.
This method worked far better than tracking my sleep with a device – using my perceived sleep quality turned out to be less ambiguous. With the device, the overload of data made it more difficult to narrow my results.
and Then There’s Falling BACK Asleep…
If you’re a person who wakes up in the middle of the night with your thoughts racing… and then suffers, praying to fall asleep again, until finally, you pass out about fifteen minutes before the alarm goes off – you know that finding a way to fall back asleep is key.
During the night, your brain is consolidating all your learning from the prior day. It’s busy in there, Dude. My theory is that when we wake up and catch it working, we get sucked into thinking that we’re actually figuring out important stuff. Trust me, we’re not. How many of those sleepless nights actually yielded great insights for you? Right. Not enough to be worth it. To fall back asleep, you have to stay out of your brain’s way and let it do it’s job.
Here are three ways to fall back asleep.
Count Sheep
Basically, count backward from 100. If you get to 0, start at 100 again. Usually, by the third time through, you’re out. The key here is to make the counting just hard enough that you have to stay focused, but boring enough that your mind gives up and goes to sleep.
Count Sheep Version 2
Count backward from 100 by threes. You’ll probably have to move this option within a week or so of counting backward. The first method will have become too easy. Your mind will be able to wander back to your mental busy work. To make it hard enough to keep you focused, count down by 3 – 100, 97, 94, 91, 88, 85, 82, 79… see how the pattern doesn’t repeat for a long time? That’s what keeps your mind focused just enough. Again, you won’t often make it through three rounds before you’re out like a light.
Hack Your Mind
This is my new favorite way . Just stick with me here.
During the day – pay a lot of attention to the idea that sleep is very important. What you’re doing is priming your brain that sleeping is as important as whatever else you spin out on at night. Try to tie some emotion to the thoughts. I had “Get a Good Night’s Sleep” up on my whiteboard for about 2 months and when I looked at it, I tried to feel grateful that I was going to give myself the gift of sleep. I also noticed that all that thinking I did in the middle of the night never actually got me any results. By paying attention, during the day to the idea that sleep is a top priority, you’re telling yourself this is important stuff. Sleep is vital. Thinking at night is not valuable. You need to believe both of these. Fortunately, you probably already do.
2. When you wake up in the night with your mind racing – ask yourself the question, “Where Am I?” This is an old Zen question that changes your perspective from rumination to observation. Answer yourself with “I’m in my bed.” Let yourself wake up enough to really see that you’re in bed.
3. Next, as your mind picks up the thread of whatever thoughts it’s working on – tell yourself some version of “I’m not working on that now. The bed is for sleeping.”
If you’re like me, you’re brain will release the thought and you’ll drop right back to sleep.
I’d love to hear if this brain hack works for you. Drop me a line on facebook @RockYourDayJob or on LinkedIn – Amy D’Annibale and let me know how it works for you. Or set up a 25-minute free coaching session here and tell me in person.
And Then … There’s Why It Matters…
I just got done listening to The Passion Paradox by Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness. Here’s a quote from that book, that explains why a good night sleep is good for you and your company:
“If you really love your work and want to do a good job at it, the last thing you should do is sacrifice sleep. In the early 2000s, then groundbreaking research out of Harvard University found that it is during sleep that you retain, consolidate, store, and connect information. In other words, your mind doesn’t grow and make leaps when you are at work, but rather when you are at rest. “
Another thing I read this year is that your brain prioritizes consolidation of negative memories first. Why? Well, it’s super important to remember where the tigers are. Remembering where the raspberries were? Not as much. You need to get about 6.5 hours of sleep to get the neutral and the positive learning consolidated too.
You’re in for a shock if you think you’re working for your boss.
If you’re unhappy at your day job, if your ‘rock your job’
mental sound track is starting to sound like poorly
recorded hold music, you might want to try these
perspective-switching ideas on for size.
Secret
#1
Who
You Think You Work For – is wrong.
Our cultural vernacular gives us this wonderful phrase… ‘I
work for ‘Some Company.’ We’ve all said it. I’ll probably say it tomorrow; it doesn’t make it true. You are the CEO
of your own little employment agency and
your role as CEO of Employment You is to
find a customer who will pay you for sending yourself to work with them.
Is that confusing?
Just think of this way. You work for you. You sell your services to a company. They pay you, but in the end, you report to
yourself. You get to decide if you’re doing a good job, what job you do and what you
charge. Like any business, you have to
sell the services customers want to pay for, and like any business, you get to
decide how much you sell and at what price.
I work for me.
I get to decide how I’m going to show up at work, what kind of results I’m going to deliver and how much I’m willing to put into my daily grind.
My customer is free to buy from me or anyone else. They only owe me for what I’ve already
delivered.
When you view it that way, it’s a lot different right? Instead of thinking you’re at the whim of a corporation that’s out of touch and is treating you badly, suddenly, that corporation is you. When you work for you, the motivation to get in there and provide your customer with value becomes very strong. If you don’t deliver, they won’t buy. But also, there’s a sense of pride and control. This is your business. You run it and you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.
Next week – Secret #2 : The
Reason You’re Working is Not What You Think
Sticking to a known road…only gets you to a known destination.
Here’s the thing. If you want someone else to tell you each step in a process so that you’re sure you’ll succeed – you will always be limited to predictable results. You will still be tied to what is commonly considered a practical, realistic outcome.
Get it? No?
If I join a weight loss plan, and eat exactly what they tell me to eat, use their metrics for measuring my food, be it a calculation that only they understand or a package that they’ve determined is a meal, then I will be limited to the results that someone else’s plan or package can deliver. Going forward, I’ll be tied to that program to maintain my weight.
If I take a position at a company and if I use their job description as the sole metric for what I’m going to do on a daily basis, then I am forever tied to that position. I will not be demonstrating that I’m ready for another position and forever more, if I want to understand if I’m successful, I’ll be tied to that static definition of success.
So What?
Well, for starters, I’ve hemmed myself in. In an effort to avoid disappointment, I’ve constrained my possible outcomes. Because I’m only going to follow one path, because I’m going to measure my food against an unchanging plan, because I’m going to measure my job performance against a static scale, the number of possible acheivements has just shrunk.
Let’s look at the opposite.
If I create my own weight loss plan, it’s possible that I’ll find a formula that creates weight loss. In fact, as long as I never stop taking action – planning what I’m going to eat and eating exactly that – measuring results and then adjusting – I will drop weight. I will also build internal confidence in the weight loss process because it arose from inside myself. I’m also more likely to lose faster than my friend on a plan, because I won’t be limited to someone else’s schedule or process. I’m also more likely to lose slower for the same reason. The number of possible outcomes has expanded in every way.
The same for my job. If I believe that it’s up to me to define what my responsibilities are, I’ve just blown open the doors on possible outcomes in my career as compared to a person who is measuring themselves against a someone else’s yardstick or job description.
It’s easy to see in the weight loss example because pounds lost per week is immutable. When we talk about job performance, the results we measure seem murky and, we don’t get to track our progress on a weekly basis easily in one number. However, the process is the same. I define a set of actions that I imagine will create the job results that I want. I take those actions consistently, then I measure where I’m at. I tweak my actions and repeat the process.
For instance, I might decide that I’m good at and enjoy task completion. I want my job to include completing tasks quickly and often. So I set up a course of action. Every Monday, I’ll consider what results I need to achieve by the end of the week – say one report created, two reviews done, five hundred lines of code or one project promoted – whatever it is, then I break that down into tasks about a half hour in length each. I double check the tasks against my calendar, modulate the quantity so that it’s achievable and start checking off the boxes for each task. At the end of the week I measure my output, my job satisfaction, etc. Did I love the feeling of completing tasks? Did I get the result I wanted from this? If not, I evaluate why, adjust and try again. In time, I should be plowing through tasks and creating results efficiently. If I’m the kind of person that loves that type of work process, my job satisfaction should go up. If I work in an industry that appreciates that type of work process, then I should see my performance scores or salary go up. If my industry doesn’t value high task completion, then I may see my performance scores go down or my salary stagnate. Then I can decide what action to take next. Either way, the possible outcomes for me at work have expanded in every way. I am now in control of the results I get at work, I have confidence in my ability to define my job and achieve the results I want, all of which should translate into less uncertainty about my ability to keep myself employed over the long run.
Task completion is a pretty simple example. You can apply the same thinking to leadership or technical prowess. Look at your skill set and find the things you’re great at, which are likely to be the things you love to do. Then ask yourself, how can I deliver results while maximizing use of these skills? Then plan those actions into your week and measure your results.
My friend who wanders into her boss’s office each week for a list of tasks is working in a way that our society tells us is less risky. That’s not true. She has reduced the risk of making a mistake, but she’s increased the risk of missed opportunity. She has less of a chance of building confidence, creating an enjoyable work experience and less chance of exemplary achievement. There’s an argument to be made that she’s traded her potential for stability. However, that argument is shaky given that we don’t know how well her boss assigns work and how long the job she is currently doing will remain viable. Should she lose that job, she will most likely only feel confident in seeking the same job elsewhere. And in knowledge work… the jobs we were doing yesterday are often obsolete today.
So What is the Take-Away?
When you define your process, you own the results. And that my friends, is pretty powerful mojo.
Monday Blog Redux If you noticed, I posted the same blog content with 2 different pictures. That, my friends is a fail, and I’m leaving them up to honor my fail. I was running late, and uploaded the same blog, rushing, trying to keep my commitment to putting up a blog every Monday… had I put up nothing, that would be a quit.
That said, move on to the real blog – 3 secrets about work.
Bringing your mojo to work with you isn’t as risky as you think….
Here’s the thing. If you want someone else to tell you each and every detail of a process so that you’re sure you’ll succeed – your results will always be limited.
Get it? No?
Their System, Their Results.
If I join a weight loss plan, and eat exactly what they tell me to eat, use their process, be it a calculation that only they understand or a package that they’ve determined is a meal, then I will be limited to the results that someone else’s plan or package can deliver AND I’ll be limited to using their system as long as I want to maintain my weight.
If I take a position at a company, study my job description, and I use that as the metric for what I’m going to do on a daily basis, then I am forever tied to that position. I will not be demonstrating that I’m ready for another position AND forever after I’ll be tied to that static definition of success.
So What?
Well, for starters, I’ve hemmed myself in. In an effort to avoid disappointment, I’ve reduced my possible outcomes. Because I’m only going to follow one path, because I’m going to measure my food against an unchanging plan, because I’m going to measure my job performance against a static scale, the scale of my possible achievements has just shrunk.
Let’s look at the opposite.
If I create my own weight loss plan, I might be less successful in the first months of trying. However, I’ll be learning. I’ll be trying things that I thought of and measuring the results. It’s possible that I’ll find a formula that creates weight loss. In fact, as long as I never stop taking action – planning what I’m going to eat and eating exactly that – measuring results and then adjusting – I will drop weight. I will also build internal confidence in the weight loss process because it arose from inside myself. I’ll know more about what causes me to drop weight than I ever would on someone else’s plan. At the end, when I’m at goal, I’m not tied to anyone’s boxed meal or secret formula. I’ll have self-confidence around weight loss. I’m also more likely to lose faster than my friend on a plan, because I won’t be limited to someone else’s schedule or process. I’m also more likely to lose slower for the same reason. The number of possible outcomes has expanded in every way.
The same goes for my job.
If I believe that it’s up to me to define what my responsibilities are, I’ve just blown open the doors on possible outcomes in my career as compared to a person who is measuring themselves against a single yardstick or job description.
The process is the same. I define a set of actions that I imagine will create the job results that I want. I take those actions consistently, then I measure where I’m at. I tweak my proscribed actions and repeat the process.
For instance, I might decide that I love the feeling of completing a task and I want my job to include completing tasks quickly and often. So I set up a course of action. Every Monday, I’ll consider what results I need to achieve by the end of the week – say one report created, two reviews done, five hundred lines of code or one project promoted – whatever it is, then I break that down into tasks about a half hour in length each. I double check the tasks against my calendar, modulate the quantity so that it’s achievable and start checking off the boxes for each task. At the end of the week I measure my output, my job satisfaction, etc. Did I love the feeling of completing tasks? Did I get the result I wanted from this? If not, I evaluate why, adjust and try again. In time, I should be plowing through tasks and creating results efficiently. If I’m the kind of person that loves that type of work process, my job satisfaction should go up.
If I work in an industry that appreciates that type of work process, then I should see my performance scores or salary go up.
If my industry doesn’t value high task completion, then I may see my performance scores go down or my salary stagnate. Then I can decide what action to take next.
Either way, the possible outcomes for me at work have expanded in every way. I am now in control of the results I get at work, I have confidence in my ability to define my job and achieve the results I want, all of which should translate into less uncertainty about my ability to continue to keep myself employed over the long run.
My friend who wanders into her boss’s office each week for a list of tasks to do is working in a way that our society tells us is less risky. That’s not true. She has reduced the risk of making a mistake, but she’s increased the risk of missed opportunity. She has less of a chance of building confidence, creating a super-enjoyable job and less chance of exemplary achievement.
There’s an argument to be made that she’s traded her potential for stability. That argument is shaky given that we don’t know how well her boss assigns work and how long the job she is currently doing will remain viable. Should she lose that job, she will most likely only feel confident in seeking the same job elsewhere. And in knowledge work… the jobs we were doing yesterday are often obsolete today.
SoWhat is the Take Away?
When you Define Your Process, You Own the Results
And that my friends, is pretty powerful MoJo.
Next Week:
Three Secrets About Work
Guaranteed to Change The Way You Think About Your Job
Every day, you get to choose what you’re going to do next.
Our time has a way of filling up. Our lives do too. One way to find out what you really want to be doing with your time is empty it out and see what you add back. The results might surprise you.
In 2016 I quit every extra activity in my life other than one volunteer gig and my day job. I parted ways with cherished friends as I left groups and stopped participating in sports. One after another, I stopped it all.
In the space that opened up, I found time… and curiosity. In the opening that I’d created, I found dreams.
After a couple of months with nothing extra going on, I found myself exploring. My friends and I agreed to hike across Scotland. I lost forty pounds. I hired a life coach. I totally transformed my life.
Ever wonder what might be different if you weren’t doing all of what you do?
